3 Lists To Make Today

This post is inspired in part by a conversation with my friend E.

We were talking about self care and I realized that we give ourselves many reasons and excuses not to get started on this art.

A little bit into the conversation, it dawned on me that even though self care can be daunting, the easiest way to start is by creating these 3 lists first. They would form the cornerstone of every other action that you would take in support of your self.


1| A Gratitude List

It's easy to get caught up in the drama and turmoil of everyday.

Catch your breath and start by listing 3 things you are grateful for when you wake up and when you go to bed at night. I picked this practice up from Oprah years ago and for a long time I kept a physical gratitude journal. It was always amazing to see the shift in perspective once I started naming everything that I was thankful for.

Today I am grateful for the rain and the fact that the world seems cleaner than usual, for my green manicure, for a chance to have had breakfast all week to excellent health after a week that was challenging in terms of headaches and body pains.

May the words from this favorite childhood hymn remind you to Count Your Blessings always.

Count your blessings, name them one by one

Count your blessings, see what God has done

Count your blessings, name them one by one

And it will surprise you what the Lord has done

If the only prayer you said today was Thank You, that would be more than enough.


2| A Desire List

Treat your desires as sacred.

Take yourself to the toy store and indulge yourself. For once in your life, go all out and allow yourself the joy that comes from having an uncensored moment to really choose, decide and DESIRE.

A desire list reminds you that what you want springs forth from a place deep within your heart and your soul

You don't need to know how it will happen. Conjure up the what and leave the rest up to the powers that be.

Desire is the way we create...


My list is always changing. What I do to make the exercise more engaging and because I am a more visual person- is take out images that speak to what I would like to desire and experience.  I then bless them and place them in a special flower box by my bedside.

Occasionally I will go back to the box just to remind myself that my desires matter. I love the surprise that comes from seeing a number of them having come to being!


3| A Brag List

For too long we have been told that to brag is wrong.

You appear to be too full of your self.

There is nothing wrong with being full of your self. 

I am here to let you know that you have every right to celebrate what you are exceptional at.

Try this little exercise: sit down in a quiet corner with your journal and pen.

Close your eyes and think back to the moments in your life when you have been most proud of yourself.

Really get into it- it could be one year past, a special time from your childhood or teenage experience.

Immerse yourself in the details- what happened? why did that instance particularly inspire you?

Come back to that memory any time you feel low or you feel that your efforts are not good enough.


The beauty of such lists is that everyone's experience is very different. As with anything else, there is no wrong or right way to do any of the lists.

The point is that you feel good and blessed; abundant and deserving; inspired and motivated after.


Let me know in the comments below: 

Have you done any of these lists?

Which is your favorite? How does it inspire you?