The Art Of Self Care

Pleasure is a big deal.

I started out actively seeking pleasure the moment I started the process of re-arranging, re-doing, changing, moving, re-purposing and recycling. With each step I took, I experienced a level of clarity and awareness around my relationship with things. {You can read more about that particular  experience here}

Pleasure is the cornerstone around which an orgasmic lifestyle is built.

It is the missing link in our everyday.

P.S: Need some ideas on how to incorporate pleasure into your everyday?

Here is the disclaimer: you can't experience true pleasure if you are not taking care of yourself.

Self-care is what helps you appreciate the importance of pleasure in your everyday.

Self-care is taking actions to take care of our emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual health. But more than that it is giving yourself permission to experience love and attention from YOU.

It is connecting with who you truly are in order to heal and thrive.


Self care, like any other art requires patience, dedication and commitment.

It is taking a stand for yourself and promising to put yourself first.

Here are a few tips to make self-care an everyday part of your life.

1| Make yourself a BIG PRIORITY

The most common excuse that many of us use is 'I don't have the time.'

You cannot afford to say you don't have the time to care for yourself.

You are more important. You need to carve out the time.

You have to be deliberate about this.

Affirm to yourself: when I flourish, everyone flourishes.

Make a list of at least 10 things that make you feel nurtured. 

Commit to doing at least 3 of them in a week.

2| Surround yourself with things that spark your joy

After years of trial and error, copying and pasting, aiming and failing, I know exactly what I love and why. I have become a bit more confidence in my choices, selection and taste. 

In the process of removing and letting go, I have come to appreciate that there are some sights and sounds and scents that I always go back to.

I have purposed to surround myself with sights that inspire my highest creativity, scents that arouse and tease and tantalize, sounds that are literally music to my ears and textures that excite and pamper me.

I have realized that my quality of life is one of the most important factors to me that helps me feel nurtured, loved and supported.

What does that look like for me? A bouquet of fresh flowers bought every week because I literally smile at the sight of such gorgeousness; the smell of lavender oil in my final rinse of clothes , black and white and geometric print because it represents balance and a pomegranate- coconut shower gel because I feel enriched and alive.

It has taken the plushness of a sheep-skin rug by my bedside and a Casio battery-operated alarm clock to remind me of the simple pleasures of life.  I enjoy the splash of colors all around me and my marker pens and highlighters are testament to a colorful personality.

Life is too short to be drab and dull.

3| Connect with your Body English

The most important key to self-care is connecting with the wisdom of your body.

We are guilty of demanding magic from our bodies...always in a constant motion of Go! Go! Go! Is it any wonder therefore when our bodies break down and shut down- forcing us to listen and pay attention.

That aching back.

The constant migraine.

The stuffy chest and heavy heart.

STOP! Your body is giving you clues as to what you need to change in order to thrive.

Your body holds your truth.

It will gently persuade you to set limits and boundaries around what you will not put up with.

It will force you to walk away from that job that is taking its toll on you- yet you keep pushing it forward.

Please remember:

Self-care is not selfish. You cannot serve from an empty vessel. {tweet this}


A bit more inspiration for your own self-care practice.

{Here is a snippet from my #21DaysOfSelfCare challenge}


I invite you to join in on the Wellness series- inspired by Lamu.

Lamu is a gorgeous island in my country and the wellness capital of East Africa.

Having spent a whole week there, this series will consist of lessons curated to help you bring more pleasure and self-care into your everyday.

I hope you are in for the ride!

How do YOU practise self-care?

Share in the comments below.