5 Every Day Chores To Teach You Presence

When was the last time you were really present to what you were doing?

I remember a particular incident when after hanging out a whole day with a certain group of people, dinner time was spent heads buried in their mobile phones.  Granted, the only reason I could notice others' bad manners and lack of attention was precisely because my phone happened to have gone off and I didn't have my charger. I can almost bet you that my fingers would be twidling around with my phone had it been functional.

That {long and boring} dinner reminded me of the importance of always staying in the present moment.

We are constantly in a state of doing- ness to the extent that we have forgotten what it is like to be.

mīn(d)f(ə)lnəs/

noun

 the quality of consciously being aware of something.

 a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.


We have several opportunities in our day to day lives to help us come back to the present moment...and ironically these can be found as we go about mundane tasks.

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1|    Ironing

Quite frankly I don't like ironing clothes. I find it tedious and irritating and sometimes I wish we had a lot more wash and wear items of clothing. That is until I took a trip and was schooled on the proper way of ironing.  My roomie, on noticing the haphazard ways in which I handled my clothes, quickly took it upon herself to correct me. {Bless her kind heart.}

She took the shirt that I had carelessly strewn on the bed to wear for that day and turned it inside out. She then began to lavish all her attention on straightening out the creases and smoothing the wrinkles off my garment.

As I looked at her, I could see love, concentration, dedication and attention at that moment and I was mesmerized.

Pay Attention

I decided to try it out for myself and I was well amazed at the results I saw for me.

Needless to say, I am now beginning to enjoy some moments of ironing as my special moment to fully focus.

I am always reminded that everything is going to smoothen out and be alright, one crease at a time.

2|   Cooking

On the other hand, I love to cook. It is one of those activities that really makes me happy.

I love the process of going to the market to choose out only the freshest ingredients for my meals.

I spend time cutting, chopping, peeling

I carefully go over recipes in my head, deciding how color, taste and texture will play out in the final result.

No, I am not a chef but I do find peace and calm from being systematic and methodical as I cook.

Find wisdom in the process

I allow the scents, colors and shapes to completely engulf me as I lovingly put everything together.

Thankfully, I have more hits than misses in the kitchen :) and have developed my own methodology and short cuts.

Next time when you are feeling a little blue, prepare yourself a lovely home cooked meal from scratch and see how that works out for you.

3|    Driving

For a long time , I was afraid of driving until I had no choice but to learn and garner enough confidence to find myself on the road.  Now that I do so regularly, I realize that I have cultivated a spirit of patience and empathy and letting go.

Sure there are many maniac drivers out there, but in the interests of my safety first, I try not to let their actions anger me into doing something rash.

I have also developed a kindness that I never knew I had.

Nurture Patience

I let go and exhale when a driver fails to turn on their indicator.

I no longer curse too loudly when a matatu cuts in front of me.

I have learnt how to graciously allow other drivers in.

Driving has taught me etiquette, civility and letting go, because I eventually get where I need to go.

4|   Bathing

If there is one part of the day that I look forward to, it has to be stepping into a warm shower and allowing the water to wash over me.

I feel like stepping under the gushing spray of water symbolically suggests washing away the troubles and issues from that day.

Get into ritual

It is in the shower that I developed the concept of self- care and self- love.

I love the idea of using bath salts, bath scrubs and essential oils to turn this into a special time of self- nurturing.

Allow bath time to point you in the direction of your best self, to give yourself a break and to treat yourself from inside out.

5|     Cleaning

I have come to enjoy thorough scrub downs of my space to leave it sparkling clean and gleaming.

My story has its roots in being decluttered and confused- which you can read about here.

The one thing that I consistently go back to is cleaning out and clearing what I no longer have use for in order to make some space for the new and give some room for what I really desire to come to fruitition.

Create Space And Find Clarity.

Anytime I feel a fog in my thoughts, I resort to cleaning; proper clean the windows, scrub the floors with essential oils, open the windows and re-arrange furniture. 

It always leaves the feeling of a fresh start behind.


Your Turn:

Are you guilty of not being fully present in your life?

How do you manage to remain mindful? 

Let me know in the comments below.

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